Friday, October 14, 2011
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
- What is it in your life that needs changing?
- How are you going to begin that process?
- What is it in your business or career that needs to change to make it more profitable?
- What is it in your attitude that needs to change to make you more effective?
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
The Real Meaning Of Empowerment
Abilities remain untapped.
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Believe You Can Succeed and You Will
Success is determined not so much by the size of one’s brain as it is by the size of one’s thinking. As Prophet David, who wrote, “As one thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Shakespeare, who observed, “There is nothing either good or bad except that thinking makes it so.”
Belief works this way, Belief, the “I’m-positive-I-can” attitude, generate the power, skill, and energy needed to do. When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops. And believing you can succeed makes others place confidence in you.
The “Okay-I’ll-give-it-a-try-but-I-don’t-think-it-will-work” attitude produces failures. Belief is the thermostats that regulate what we accomplish in life. Believe in yourself, and good things do start happening.
Positive thoughts, specializes in producing reasons why you can, why you’re qualified, and why you will.
Negative thoughts, expert in developing why you can’t, why you’re weak, why you’re inadequate and its specialty is “why-you-will-fail” chain of thoughts.
These two primary thoughts are strongly obedient and sharp to attention, immediately all you have to do is signal or call.
How to develop the power of Belief.
Think success, don’t think failure
Think, “I’ll win” not “I’ll probably lose”
I’m equal to the best not “I’m outclassed”
I can do it never “I can’t”
Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are.
Successful people are not superman; success does not require a super intellect, not based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have developed belief in themselves, and what they do. Never sell yourself short.
Believe Big.The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements.
“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be” George Sheehan
Monday, December 28, 2009
“Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.”
The first step you need to take is to get a complete picture of whatever challenge you are facing, including the good that will come out of it when properly handled. One example is improved relationships.
“Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory.”
The second step is to pinpoint the specific challenge area or areas where you need strengthening.
Using the example, let’s say that after careful analysis of all the factors, you look at the following:
- The seriousness of your efforts to meet and befriend new people and, then, to generate interest in your product, service, or opportunity.
- The degree of discipline you demonstrated in following up with interested prospects.
- The leadership ability, or lack of it, you showed in helping those people come on board as associates or clients.
- Your caring enough about the people you are working with to help them in whatever way they needed assistance and encouragement from there on.
“Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing.”
The third step is to brainstorm about your specific challenge, and write down some solution ideas.
- Analyze it from both your viewpoint and that of potential prospects’.
- Analyze it relative to how you are handling the situation and how successful leaders in your industry are handling it.
- Compare your success at it now with your success at it a year ago, two years ago, or even five years ago. Are you improving? If not, is this maybe one of the reasons you might be stuck in your progress?
- Take into account all the factors, some of which you need to deal with to reach your goal, that you may have carelessly ignored before now.
“Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.”
The fourth step is to give the analytical half of your brain time to compute the pros and cons of the possible solutions.
Each time your subconscious pops a possible solution into your mind, jot it down and save it. Give your subconscious mind time to analyze the full scope of the situation.
“We choose to go...not because [it is] easy, but because [it is] hard, because that goal will serve to measure and organize the best of our energies and skills, because that challenge is one that we are willing to accept, one we are unwilling to postpone, and one which we intend to win.”
The fifth step is taken one to three days after your brainstorming session.
Analyze your best options, while focusing on win-win solutions. This requires compassion, understanding, humility, and forgiveness so you can heal any broken relationships that may exist.
Using our business expansion challenge as an example, you may have had such responses as:
- Strengthen your desire by focusing on your dream.
- Make a list of opportunities to meet new people and schedule them into your planner.
- Learn to meet new people and make more friends.
- Explore continuing education opportunities in your industry to better prepare yourself to present what you have to offer in an appropriate, interesting way.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
“Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.” Og Mandino
Yes, fear is real and we must recognize it exists before we can conquer it. Most fear today is psychological. Worry, tension, embarrassment, panic – all from mismanaged. Fear is success enemy number one. Fear stop people from capitalizing an opportunity, it wears down physical vitality, it make people sick, shorten life, closes your mouth when you want to speak.
Two step procedure to cure fear and win confidence:
- Then take action. There is some kind of action for any kind of fear.
Two Ways to put people in proper perspective:
- The other fellow is important, you are important too. “We’re just two important people sitting down to discuss something of mutual interest and benefit.
- Develop an understanding attitude.
Remember two short sentences when someone declares war on you. “Underneath he’s probably a very nice guy. Most folks are.” There is within us a desire to be right, think right and act right. When we go against that desire, we put a cancer in our conscience. This cancer grows and grows by eating away at our confidence. Avoid asking yourself “Will I get caught? Will they find out? Will I get away with it?” People who are shy in introducing themselves can replace this timidity with confidence just by taking three simple actions simultaneously. First: reach for other person’s hand and clasp it warmly, Second: look directly at the other person, Third: say I’m very glad to know you. This three will banish shyness. Confidence action produces confident thinking.
Confidence Building Exercise.
- Be a front seater. Most folks scramble to sit in the back rows so they won’t be “too conspicuous” or lack confidence.
- Practice making eye contact. Instinctively, you ask yourself questions about fellow who doesn’t look you in the eye. “What’s he trying to hide?, What’s he afraid of?, Is he trying to put something over on me?, Is he holding something back?”, or it may say “I feel weak besides you. I feel inferior to you, I’m afraid of you” or I feel guilty, I’ve done something or I’ve thought something that I don’t want you to know.” Make your eyes work for you. Aim them right at others eyes. It not only gives you confidence, it wins you confidence, too.
- Walk 25% faster. Throw your shoulders back, lift up your head, move ahead just a little faster, and feel self-confidence grow.
- Practice Speaking-up. Those who fail to participate thinks to himself: My opinion is probably worthless, If I say something, I’ll probably look foolish, I’ll just say nothing, besides, the others probably know more than I. I don’t want the others to know how ignorant I am. Each time we fail to speak – we take one more dose of confidence poison; we become less and less confidence of ourselves.
On the positive side: The more you speak up, the more you add to your confidence and the easier it to speak up the next time. Speak-up. It’s a confidence building vitamin. Make it a rule to speak up at every open meeting you attend, Speak-up and say something voluntarily at every business conference, committee meeting, community forum you attend. Make no exception. Comment, make a suggestion, ask a question and don’t be the last to speak. Try to be the ice breaker and never worry about looking foolish. You won’t.
- Smile Big. Try to feel defeated and smile big at the same time. You can’t. A big smile gives you confidence. A big smile beats fear, rolls away worry, defeat despondency. Harness the power of smiling.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
“Negativity works like poison in the bloodstream: if you give into its power, it will weaken your confidence and kill your dream.”
Your goals are simply too important to let that happen!
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Use action to cure fear and gain confidence. Here’s something to remember: Action feeds and strengthens confidence, inaction in all forms feeds fear. To fight fear, act. To increase fear – wait, put off, postpone. Action cures fear. “Unless your heart, your soul, and your whole being are behind every decision you make, the words from your mouth will be empty, and each action will be meaningless. Truth and confidence are the roots of happiness.”
Start your mental engine – mechanically – When you write a thought on paper, your full attention is automatically focused on that thought. That’s because the mind is not designed to think on thought and write another at the same time. And when you write on paper, you “write” on your mind, too, Test prove, that you remember something much longer and much more exactly if you write the thought on paper.
Now is the magic word for success. Tomorrow, next week, later, sometime, someday, often as not are synonyms for the failure word, never. “It’s easier to spend what’s left over after savings than it is to save what’s left over after spending.” Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today” by Benjamin Franklin. Remember, thinking in terms of now gates things accomplished. But thinking in terms of someday or sometime usually means failure.”
Initiative is a special kind of action. It’s doing something worthwhile without being told to do it. The person with initiative has a standing invitation to join the high income brackets in every business and profession.
Developing the initiative habit
Be a crusader. When you see something that you believe ought to be done, pick up the ball and run.
Be a volunteer. Each of us has been in situations in which we wanted to volunteer for some activity but didn’t. Why? Because of fear. Not fear that we couldn’t accomplish the task, but rather fear of what our associates would say. The fear of being laughed at, of being called an eager beaver, of being accused of bucking for a raise holds many people back.
By all means, volunteer for those special assignments. The fellow who stands on the sidelines, who holds off, who is passive, does not lead, But the doer, the fellow who thinks action finds others want to follow him. People place confidence in the fellow who acts. They naturally assume he knows what he is doing. I’ve never heard anyone complimented and praised because “he doesn’t disturb anyone”, “he doesn’t take action”, or “he waits until he’s told what to do”. Have you?
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